I know that I’ve been posting a lot about our wedding and pictures of our Photo Shoot over the past weeks and guess what, I have more! I know some of you would probably be getting sick of it by now but it’s not every day you’ll get married and I just want to save every bit of memory that we’ve made in here and share them with you, my friends. You know how my past was and I’ve said this many times over how grateful I am for what I have today.
I’ve never actually shared in detail what really happened on the blog because I do not intend to defame anyone in particular in here. Besides, I’m not perfect, I’ve made many blunders myself and learned a hard lesson from them. Sometimes, we have to go through pain in order to come out stronger and wiser. I’ve shared my story personally to a few friends whom I felt needed to hear it because we’re only human and we’ll listen to anyone who understands what we’re going through. The question I get asked most is, “How did you change your life?”. So I made this post especially for you in 5 points and a video.
1. Get Rid of Toxic People
You don’t have to follow these tips in any particular order but the very first thing that you should do is get rid of toxic people. Who are toxic people? People who make use of you, demoralise you constantly, make you feel worthless, abuse you emotionally/mentally/physically, who talk behind your back, basically, people who treat you like shit. If it’s your boyfriend, dump him. If it’s your friends, quit talking to them. Even if they’re your family members, stay away from them. No one is entitled to put you down no matter their position in your life.
2. Get a New Look
The simplest yet one of the best ways to signify a change in your life is to change your look! There are various ways to do this.
- Get a new hairstyle – chop it all off or dye it!
- Get a new tattoo!
- Get a piercing!
- Try on a new daring lipstick colour – I can help with that!
- Go on a wardrobe overhaul!
And… throw out all the shit any toxic person has ever given you! Do what makes you feel good about yourself, doesn’t matter what anyone says about it. When I left a toxic relationship some years ago, I went out to cut my fringe and dyed my hair jet black because I always wanted to see how I’ll look in bangs since he’d never let me do that. I did get a string of hate saying how horrible I look but I didn’t care, the fact that he hated it made me love it more. I also went to pierce my belly to direct attention away from my surgical scars.
Travelling opens your eyes to different cultures and environment and you’ll even learn more about yourself. As the saying goes – “Travelling is the only thing you buy that makes you richer”. But where do you start? Write down a list of places you’ll like to visit and things you’ll like to do and then, pick which one you’d like to do first. Then, grab a friend, your boyfriend or if you’re game enough, you can even travel alone! I started my personal Bucket List years back and I’m slowly striking things off. It’ll be fun to look at it years later and see how many who’ve strike off and the sense of achievement. I even wrote my travel stories in a Travelogue.
4. Start a Hobby
Sometimes, being in a routine for a long time makes you forget your dreams. Go back into the back of your mind and dig it out! Everyone has dreams, ambitions and things they wish they could do. Now is a great time to do it, nothing is impossible or too silly. Take up classes, read and research. I started my blog because I love journaling and I thought it’ll be a great way for me to record the moments in my new journey through life. I’ve been doing this for 5 years now and I don’t see myself stopping anytime soon.
5. Change Your Career
Some may find it risky but if you feel like there’s no progress or if you’re dragging yourself to work, then it’s probably time to look for another job or change your career altogether. Assess first if you like what you’re doing but not the place you’re doing it at OR if you just do not like the job, period. Make a career plan and QUIT THAT SHITASS JOB. In the time I decided to make a life change, I left a job that held many memories because I felt like I was stuck in a rut. Since then, I took up a Diploma in Makeup Artistry and landed a job as a Beauty Advisor but I realise I had to do actually do more selling than makeup or advising, lol. So, I enrolled into a Tourist Guide course, took up a part-time job as a Visitors Assistant and a year and a half later, I graduated and am now guiding. Sometimes, it takes more than one try before you feel happy with your job, so don’t give up. You can always find another job but you can’t find another you.
So these are the things I have done to change my life. I don’t mean to blow my own trumpet but reading through these, I’m so proud of myself for digging up the courage to let go and to find myself. I’ve come a long way since being cooped up in an unhealthy relationship with someone who didn’t like to travel (like, wtf?!) to exploring the great wonders of the world and places I never dream I’ll visit, being a guide and ambassador in my own country and getting married to the love of my life who encourages me to chase for my dreams. I hope this has inspired you to let go of the negativities in your life and chase your dreams too. If little ol’ me can do it, I’m sure you can too my dear friends. Do let me know if you need any advise in the comments below or PM me if it’s personal and I’ll do my best to help.
Till the next entry, love and kisses.